Newly separated

[Di-mond]

I read most of the 5 love languages book yesterday.
I think my love language is Acts of Service with my secondary being a Words of Affirmation.
My H I believe is Physical Touch or Words of Affirmation.

I spoke with H about the book and he said he would go get it from the library.
That is now in his court. I will not bring it up again. He knows I read it, now waiting on him for that.

Another thing that has been bothering me is that he said he would try to read up and understand more about my illness, since that was a huge problem for him.
Just to re-cap....I have an auto-immune disease called Scleroderma. Besides turning connective tissue hard, almost like scar tissue, it also causes joint swelling, chronic fatigue and can affect organs such as the lungs, heart, kidneys and liver. I have hardening of the skin on my stomach and right side of my body. It s uncomfortable all the time and often painful. I also have Rhumatoid arthritis that has been aggravated by this illness and by my line of work (17 years in an automotive factory). Last year I started treatment in the forms of immuno-suppressivng medications and steroids. I had an allergy reaction to one of the medication (full body rash) and gained a ton of weight. I felt awful! In January I was put on low dose chemo injections that made me feel even worse. At the end of March I was forced to take to take short term disability because I was missing so much time from work from the nausea. From the beginning of my diagnosis my H had an I don't care attitude. He made it to just a couple of my doctors appointments and gave me no support at all. My first appointment with my specialist he went so far as to tell me to not be so needy and to suck it up and stop being a complainer. That hurt a lot and I started to withdraw from him.
As of a month ago, right after he left me, I have been pulled off all medication. My liver has been damaged from all the poison I had been putting in my body. The doctors were worried my liver would give out if I continued. So, I have been eating healthy, exercising, loosing weight, finding my faith/spiritual self again. I started a liver cleanse a few weeks ago. So far so good. I'm feeling better physically. Through talking things out over the last few weeks with my H the past few weeks, he has discovered that he has a fear of sick people, because he lost so many people in his life when he was younger, including his father when he was 8. He pulls back and shuts down to not feel the pain. He is working with a counsellor to deal with this and promised me that he would support me from now on in my battle with my illness. But as of right now he still hasn't done any research on this disease and doesn't understand that I might look fine and be ok one day and not the next. There is no cure and I will have to manage the symptoms for the rest of my life.
Some days I feel he is just giving me lip service to keep me hanging on.
How in the world are we ever supposed to work things out if he has no intentions of ever coming home. He is starting a new life in another city and yes he says he wants me there with him, but I have to give up my whole life to do that. My job, my children, my family, my friends. We have the summer to figure it out.
Am I wasting my time? Should I just move on without him in my life?