WAW Filed for Divorce Next Day Pt. 4 (Bob)

[Sotto]

Bob, I think we cross posted this morning - sorry about that...

I'm sorry you're finding things tough right now. But you know what - you can do this! And you are doing so well. The small ups and big downs are all part of the process. It's a huge thing you (and we) are going through. It is painful, and it doesn't resolve itself quickly. And there are times you just feel like throwing in the towel.

But, a big thing I have learned is never to make any big decisions when I feel low, angry or emotional. The big decisions are saved for those sober and calm times. I also try to think very long term now - how will this sit with me in 2,3,5 years time - and I try and act in accordance with my values in the longer term.

I'm sure most of us have thought - I can't do this any more - but tomorrow is another day and likely your feelings will change. The more you can work on your own level of detachment, the better. Because that takes the edge off the pain and makes carrying on more possible. If we don't detach enough, we have so many ups and downs, we get to the point where we just want to 'move on.'

So, my advice is keep moving forwards, and keep working on those things that will help you in the months ahead. If last nights GAL didn't suit you, try another option and over time, you'll meet some lovely people and what is happening (or not) with your W will matter less.

Hope tomorrow is a better day - Take care (((Bob)))