AJ - I had a very very long relationship - all my adult life 30+ years. I have known for along time that this is a journey my xh has to take. I also know that MLC has heightened his tendency to be manipulative. Hence the suspicion. What is he up to?
His journey isn't over yet, and may never be. But we had a long and happy marriage which I still honour. So rather than cut him totally out of my life, I am now at a point where I can deal with him, and he seems to want a degree of connection, like a thin life line to his old life.
I realised this morning (before I read this) that I have let go of my anger, or my anger had let go of me. It is very freeing when it happens. Did he do awful things - oh my goodness yes, and he hurt me and the children. But we are all OK now, and holding onto the anger hurts no-one but ourselves.
I am not here to judge him. I have done so in the past, but not any more. He has to get through this (or not) and I am not about to make it harder for him. If any of that makes sense?
