Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks Huddy. I should be thankful really. I'm not that far. I actually have custody ATM. I am just p**sed I suppose that W is running the show completely. And it is n't like I did before as it has been suggested.


Hey, sorry but I cannot help but believe that at the root of your desire to have full custody is NOT that she's "unfit" (which is the legally required standard in every state here), but that you are "just so p**ssed" and a whole lot of is centers around the OM or him being around your kids.

Almost every state in the US favors joint custody, which does not always translate into 50/50 physically, but does give equal rights to the parents about schools, religion and location.

I'm a L (but not in the UK obviously), but here, you cannot use OM as grounds for saying she's unfit -

UNLESS

he's a convicted felon who has not mended his ways (or if his crimes involved children) AND OR if they are having sex in front of the kids AND OR doing something dangerous around the kids. (Sorry but drinking by itself won't cut it.)

SO

You may be wasting a lot of time and energy and money on something you won't win, and which at its core, stems mostly from jealousy.

JUST FOOD FOR THOUGHT...


I never thought I would be in this position to say to someone else - but you are very early in your sitch. Time marches on I suppose. I'll have to check out your thread to know more detail.
-Py

If you remember little else I say to you, remember this:

Life is so terribly short. Make the most of it. Don't spend tons of mental or physical or emotional (or spiritual!) Energy on things you have no control over.

Is it Buddhists who advise us to let go of that which we cannot control or have,

and learn to be happy with what we do have?