WAH with one foot out the door and one in.

[Painter]

Hi, BW

I can't give you any guidance, just sympathy and commiseration. I think it's hard to predict how any one individual may respond to our behavior, and I guess it's important that we do what we do for ourselves and not in hope of eliciting a reaction from someone else... although that can seem completely impossible when they keep you on your toes with their flip-flopping!

I read in a book about one of her clients who had said: "On a good day, I'm committed to my spouse. On a so-so day, I'm committed to my marriage. On a bad day, I'm committed to my commitment." It very much expressed how I feel. Unfortunately, it seems I'm alone in feeling that way in this M...

I was reading your thread with great interest because our situations sound so very similar, at least when it comes to what the problems are and how both parties react, and your H's behavior. It sounds like we are in somewhat different phases right now, though. I will be following your thread and post more about my own situation in my own thread. I wish you the very best!