Ok I need validating or not help.

My H has been gone since Wednesday. Tonight he comes home two hours late and in the space of ninety minutes has managed to make our three year old cry five times. I have not interrupted or made faces. When it's bedtime (we both help with the routine) my S asks me if I'll be home in the morning. I say yes and he says, yea mommy is going to be home! My H says I'll be home to and my s says ok but I want mommy. This was said as I was leaving the room.

H comes downstairs after my S is settled and is grumpy. I kept a PMA and ignored. Should I have validated that it's rough when kids act that way? There have been times in the past when it's been flipped, but I think it bothers my H because he was gone two nights.

Thoughts?


M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out