Mirror Mirror on the wall....

[BrightFuture]

Cali, I can see that you feel guarded. And you have all the right and reasons to be. I’m not saying that you need to welcome her with open arms. I was just thinking about something recently. I read about how posters mention Raine’s and rH’s posts and their journeys of reconciliation. You learn a lot from this, but there is one thing that I think is different in your sitch. You are a man trying to reconnect with the WAS woman. I think there are some differences. Raine’s H stated clearly that he wanted her and the M. Your W didn’t. And she might not do it the same way. She can apologize and be remorseful, but she also wants to be pursued as a woman, ya know...

I sense that she will not be the one to pursue you forever. I’m not saying that you need to jump the hoops. And I really don’t know what kind of advice I can give you. It is just such a delicate balance, I think. On the other side… We all want what we cannot get, LOL. So, your approach might work better than others.

I don’t know if I’m explaining my thoughts well enough. In any case, I’m cheering for you, Cali.