Cadet and GB, I think we are about to beat the one dimensional example of a lighthouse into the ground here
GB, I think the example excels because it models strength, patience, and honor to a LBS tossing about and wallowing in despair and hopelessness. And a lighthouse does shine a light. The shining light could exemplify a LBS reconnecting with a wayward in some of those ways you mentioned.
Based on your good advice, I have tried to model a vulnerability and level of emotion in my recent interactions with STBXW. She knows my desire to postpone D. I just don't think I should be calling her up to chat or making plans to hang out with her right now. I feel that would just go to reinforce to her that we can be great friends despite the D.
But I'm not absolutely sure. That's why I'm here.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
