Sooo... No kids and a weekend. What does Mahhhty do? He gets the [censored] out of Dodge. I'm heading to the mountains for 2.5 days of tranquility, serenity, sun and whitewater. I'll post again Sunday Night or Monday.
This sounds magnificent! Enjoy yourself. You deserve it!
And good work on the Mother's Day gift from the kids.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
GB - I would never choose Golf over Boating. It's not who I am. I enjoy Golf but not like being on the water. However, I do think it is interesting that he would even include me in that group. And it provides me some solace that the family still values me.
I had a great weekend. Lots of driving but a ton of paddling. My back is getting better, and my body is learning how to live an active lifestyle again (which comes with some sore parts).
I'm not going to lie.... I feel guilty that I didn't call her or text her Happy Mother's Day. But then again she isn't my Mother.... right Lost18.
I also missed the kids incredibly, I didn't call Fri, Sat or Sun to say good night. I was thinking about them, but just told myself that I was going to GO SUPER STEALTH DARK all weekend. Which is what I did. Perhaps that is cold. But then again divorce is cold and now all I need to do is worry about them and me.
She is traveling to London, so I will have the kids for a whole week!!! Which will be fun. I'm going to her place this afternoon to pick them up. I haven't been there since Christmas. I'll be confident, happy, look good. Feel good. Keep it light. And leave on my terms.
Have a good week all. Stone by Stone.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Thanks Lost... We are going to try and get the most out of this week as we can!
The pickup yesterday was/is interesting. When I got there, they were outside and the kids got soooo excited to see me. They both gave me this huge hug. It felt so good to see them. As for her, I didn't get a thank you for Mother's Day, no questions about me in any way. We had a few moments of the four of us talking and playing. Once I put the kids in the car, she then tried to talk some more, she told me a story, almost like a last effort to talk, I talked for a couple minutes and then left.
Weeks or months ago, I asked to deal with certain things. She obviously knows that I want to work through those items, but yet we doesn't discuss them.
I wish we would talk about something real. Instead all I see is a facade. I truly believe that I don't know this person.
Alas... Our conundrum.
Anyway, huge meeting this Friday for the startup. Its a big week!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
I wish we would talk about something real. Instead all I see is a facade. I truly believe that I don't know this person.
Alas... Our conundrum.
Hello mahhhty,
In your post from yesterday, you thanked me and several others. You're most welcome.
It sounds like you had a good weekend -- good you for my man!
I am sorry to hear that yesterday didn't go better. A conundrum is right. I know EXACTLY what you mean about not knowing your XW. I feel the same way about my STBX.
As hard as it is, please try to focus on yourself and your children. Refocus, you've done it some many times before.
Take care -
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Good luck with your meeting tomorrow, I'm sure you will do great!
As far as wanting to deal with certain things or talk about something real, I know it [censored], it may take a very long time for that to happen, if ever. Remember, you can only control you. You can decide to ask her again....
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Are you ok? I'm hoping it's that you are very busy or, better yet, something great is happening in your life.
I know you mentioned it's a "big week."
Please post when you have time, ok?
Thank you sir!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
