Im looking for opinions on what my next move may be . As far as trying to rekindle some feelings.
My opinion is do nothing to try to rekindle some feelings. Keep working on yourself. I think it is way too early to try working on your marriage and I think with her being a wayward wife she has a lot of work to do on herself before she can get on board with you and try to fix the M.
She needs to feel your loss, my XW never did, and it is something that a WW needs to feel. If you are still there for her you are her support while the OM can be her fun.
I think if you set boundaries with her you need to stick to them and stand up for yourself. She will see you differently and respect you. Not at the time, she will likely kick and scream, but she will respect you. Women seem to admire men who stick by their guns (from what I read).
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
