Part 19 - keeping on keeping on

[Sotto]

Hi Edz, not long until bedtime now! I've had two long days with various elections stuff. Just back from the count, where I sat with a lovely lady and we had a good chat & exchanged numbers.

With your sitch, I can see it's hard when good things seem closer than they once were. But keeping an eye on the bigger picture is important here, and not being too swayed by day to day ups and downs.

I think it is still worth extending yourself outside of the R/M, and I think this may help moving things forward. There's a space/suffocation theme in your W's comments to you. Do you understand what she means by suffocation? What is it that happens for her to feel suffocated?

It strikes me that you both having interests and friends outside the M may help to keep things fresh and not suffocating in the short and longer term. I know this isn't something you have found easy to do, but I think it is worth continuing on this GAL path whatever utimately happens with your R.

Also, I think the whole 'by Xmas' and 'number of days' stuff probably isn't that helpful. If you guys are going to get back together, you'll do it at a pace you're both comfortable with. IMO self imposed deadlines like that bring pressure you don't need. (I know those dates came from your W and not you...)

Hope you get a good night's sleep, and I would gently withdraw until/unless W comes forward again. Maybe make a nice plan with S, and leave W to it unless she contacts you to see what you're up to.

Sleep well! T :-)