Oh yeah....one more positive I didn't mention on my list.
With Mother's Day on Sunday I decided I was going to do something for her but without it involving her spending time with me (which I know she isn't open to).
So I bought her a 1 hour massage and spa treatment. Now, I wanted to make sure that she wouldn't make plans for that timeframe that I booked for her but also didn't want to tell her what it was.
So, I told her this week that I would be taking off on Sunday. That I would be over to our house at 9am and would spend the entire day with the kids so she could go out and relax and enjoy Mother's Day all to herself.
I asked her simply to not make any specific plans between 10am-11am because I had gotten her something. I made it clear that I would not be asking her to spend any of that day with me.
I expected her to tell me not thanks and that she didn't want anything from me.
But she didn't. She has said ok. So, I'm going to get her some flowers, a Mother's Day Card and go to my house at 9 on Sunday morning and give her the gift certificate for the day spa appointment. Tell her to enjoy her day and leave it at that.
Again, this was another opportunity for her to tell me "no" or "stop trying". But she didn't.
So that was another small win that will be happening Sunday that I forgot to mention
This also is part of my 180s: The real me always showed her that she was first and foremost to me. So I'm showing that again but doing it in a manner that is non-pursuing and non-pressuring. She knows I love her. She knows I want to stay married and be with her. There is no reason to say it. So I've just been showing it
