You've both already helped me see this slightly differently. (Aha, he feels it is not safe to talk to me-- an issue from within our M that still persists, so I have not changed his opinion of this. Since I can only control me, what can I work on. I have some thoughts about that. ..
I'll write more tonight when I can use the computer instead of my phone. Just to clarify though... I no longer want to be married to him, but I was expecting we would do it without involving the courts (through mediation or at least collaboration). And everything he has said has been along those lines. So, this new development felt like a blow.
