Last note... Mother's Day. I made a card with the kids and they signed it. Then we made an art project on canvas with their hand prints, and we cut all the good flowers in our garden and put it all in a nice bag for her. Nothing from me. All from the kids for the kids! She is a wonderful mother, and I would want nothing more than to celebrate with her. But that is no longer my role. I will always support/reinforce the kid's relationship with her, and I believe I did that.
Hello Mahhhty,
You handled this perfectly. As for venting yesterday, I can understand why you were upset. I do think lost18 hit the nail on the head.
Now, this my seem a little odd at first, but I have been doing this for about 1 week and it seems to be helping me. It's one of those "daily affirmations" that you say outloud to yourself.
Here it is: In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect whole and complete. I now choose calmly and objectively to see my old patterns and I am willing to make changes. I choose to have fun doing this. I choose to react is though I have found a treasure when I discover something else to release. I see in feel myself changing moment by moment. Thoughts no longer have any power over me. I am the power in the world. I choose to be free. All is well in my world.
Hope this helps. Have fun this weekend!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
