Sorry you have to be here, but you are among friends who want to help. 2 A's in that short of a time must be very difficult to deal with, I can only imagine what you are feeling.
The only value snooping really has is to protect your finances or children(if you had any). Other than that it just causes you more pain and hurt over time, and keeps you from detaching.
If you see something good you gain expectations, if you see something bad it hurts you. Many times what we see doesn't even represent the whole story, and we are biased in our views of seeing what we want to see.
Another point to make is she may even be leaving things around so see if you do snoop, just to check how emotionally attached you still are. More distance/pursuit behavior.
It has not been fun to deal with, I'll tell you that. Very stressful and just plain exhausting. Like most, some days I wonder why I let myself be put through it.
No children and separate finances for the most part, so really no reason to be snooping.
You're exactly right in everything you said. Gaining expectations from the good (or lack of bad) and getting hurt and really frickn' frustrated from the bad.
Just all around not good healthy behavior. I'm going to really try to stop.
Thanks Fogg, I appreciate it.
Fun weekend planned with my parents this weekend though! Going kayaking, fishing, movies and who knows what else. I only get to see them about twice a year so this will hopefully be a really good weekend for me (and possibly help me with my GAL if I enjoy the kayaking and fishing spots we check out!).
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