"In regards to STBXW finding her way back to the straight and narrow, I'm convinced that it's completely out of my hands now. All I can do is work on self betterment and be the best father possible. I have found comfort in the Lighthouse story during this period."

Exactly. I just wrote this on Lucy's thread and I think it applies somewhat to you...

"The Solo Partner is a great book that talks about the Pursuer/Distancer Dynamic. The only way to get to a Distancer is by turning the table. Make the Distancer become the Pursuer by the Pursuer becoming the Distancer."

Have a fun camping Defacto!


Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2
M - 8/2008
W is not happy - 1/2014
W wants D - 9/2014
W moved out - 11/2014
D filed - 1/23/2015
D'ed - 2/25/2015
Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015