One thing my DB coach and IC are both adamant about is that she uses the kids to meet her emotional needs. She tries to keep the children very dependent on her to feel needed, teaches them to tell her how much they love her constantly, and is a master of public relations to get as much attention and approval for being the perfect mom as she can. And as my children grow they don't need her as much, and you can see the issues starting to build where she feels betrayed, abandoned, etc. My DB coach says that parenting is about meeting their needs, not the other way around, and she anticipates some rocky years as they become teens.
Again ---- uncanny -- could be my W. She is "funny" now because kids are LESS dependent. teenagers are going to be hard for her in many ways I suspect. youngest stopped breastfeeding, and she ignites A. I dont think it is complete coincidence. But then again, we (me&W) can discuss this at another time. Potentially. For me, now, it is irrelevant.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
