And Hopeful. If I can ever be of any assistance to you in helping you understand what your H is going through please ask me anything at anytime.
Depression is a real disorder that cannot be controlled but can be managed through medication and therapy.
Please understand that your H is not hurting you and your children intentionally. He isn't choosing to be withdrawn. He cannot control it. But if he gets help, over time and perhaps with the realization that he is going to lose everything in life that is most important to all of us (our spouses and our children) he may wake up for real.
I had some false wake ups over the course of the last couple years as well while I was going through treatment.
The reason I know that this wake up is for real is because during the others, I still blamed my W for not being there for me durnin my time of need. But I failed to empathize with her perspective. That she truly did feel abandoned and she fell out if love with me because I had become someone completely different than my real self.
I hope it isn't too late for me. And I hope that your H does come around and that it won't be too late for him to do right by you and your children.
Best of luck to you. Please pick my brain on any answers you need from the Depressed Husbands perspective
