It sounds like you woke up. I am glad to hear that. Now, I wish my H would do the same. For the past year my husband would stay in bed the entire weekend and just ignore me and our daughter. I would try and talk to him and pleaded to go get help for his depression but he never did. And now we are separated because I couldn't take it anymore. It's been three months and he is still asleep.
So, I am glad that you can see what you were doing and how it was effecting your family and now you are doing something about it. I just hope these changes that you are making will stick. When my H and I separated before, I had seen some changes in him so I let him move back in and they only lasted a month if that.
Good luck.
Hopeful. Trust me that my wake up is for real. The changes I am showing her are genuine. It took me realizing that I am going to lose her I truly wake up.
Unfortunately for me, her reaction to it was: it's too little too late. I'm done. I've moved on. Two weeks ago is when she told me that she doesn't want to hurt me but can't stay married to me.
But, you can see what actions I have been taking and what little signs I am seeing from her.
I'd really like to know from your point of view, do you believe she may actually be hoping that the changes she sees are real? Do you think she is not taking action and letting me do what I'm doing and not telling me to stop because she may have said it's over but is actually giving me an opportunity to prove my changes are real and an opportunity to win her back.
That's the hardest part of this for me. Not having any insight into what is going through her mind.
