Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[Pyrite]

Australia. Lawyer on phone told me that it would be a waste of my time claiming full custody unless I had evidence that she was neglecting the children in some way. Basically, the court isn't even going to waste time on making the decision until it is satisfied that a decision needs to be made. In other words - she can't file for full custody either

The grass may seem green right now, but the cowpats not far away!

True - possibly. It may be true love, meant to be. But I seriously doubt that for several reasons which are not really important for us DBers. What is important for me is the detachment (and serenity ) I've achieved in the past week.

Zeus et al. There were several issues I was rolling into one. The roller coaster I had to jump off, my investment in the outcome (saving the M), I need(ed) her to need me (in the M and even now. This is something which was still hurting like a fresh wound. Now that I have identified where it is, I can dress the wound. It might be a gusher. But at least I can see it. )

All of these boil down to one realisation I have had that has made me feel so much better. And it is related to something else you said Z, "your IC said that people are not so much afraid of the events they expect to happen, but that they won't be able to handle them"

Well guess what, bring it on baby, you can't hurt me worse than what you already have - and I am past that, and smiling

Dance a little dance
Make a little Love
Get Down Tonight