Whoa, I'm not suffering much anymore! Now what?!?

[Pyrite]

Hey Zeus,

you mentioned another time that you W was also a neurotic mother. So did she drink then?

you probably have read that my W doesn't want to see the kids on mother's day. She didn't want to see daughter on her b'day either. I know teatime she was out with OM. Probably this time as well.

my point is that she seems to have done a180 on this since BD. ALSO, I suspect that maybe I made her this way. Maybe she was trying to show me what a good mother she was. Not that I imposed this on her. HOWEVER, 10 years ago when our dog was a 6 week old puppy, I went out for dinner and checked that she was going straight home after Uni. She was, but then when I called her at ~8PM, she was out shopping and hadn't been home yet. I yelled t her about being a good mum (i meant to the puupy).

One of the issues at BD I have repeated several times was like this. The worst thing I ever did to her was make one flippant remark, which she misinterpreted and internalised, and stewed on for years.

Anyway, neither here nor there really. Just wondering if maybe you also have considered that as part of your perception of an ideal M, your W tried to be the perfect mother. Their personality/disorder or ours. Again neither here nor there. A bad combination of personalities/disorders though.

That is how I am starting to see my whole M actually. 12 years ago when we met, the combination worked. (At least) 3.5 years ago - we dropped the ball and stopped even trying (together) to make it work. We grew apart and got stuck in a -ve feedback loop. And then ---- BOOOM!