Coming Home

[mleigh4]

Vge1, thanks for your support, it goes a long way. To say MIL is weird is putting it nicely. Unfortunately, the woman has no class, in a weird innocent fake way, but H thinks she walks on water. A real problem in our R.

Cali, as always thank you for your Jedi input, you have a very helpful perception of thinks that helps me think things out.

So the day after our rough drop off, I talked to my mom, filled her in. Not sure when I will learn. She got really upset, that Sicilian temper, and started in with how I need to fight for my son, how this is all so terrible for S. Here comes my huge 180. You all know, my S is my world, but I actually found myself defending H. I reminded her that H is trying to establish a relationship with S, that he genuinely wants to spend time with S, not to mention the financial support he gives us to keep us in our home. I asked her, would you prefer he went aol, like my father? Our S needs to spend time with his dad, I told her that I have no reason to fight that, and promised to keep the lines of communication with S open to help him adjust. Wow, a real lightbulb moment for me towards H.

So, I booked a cruise for S and I! We are super excited. I triple checked with H that he was ok with this, but did not invite him. This is where I am feeling some guilt. I have been tempted to invite him, but that is based on us going as a family, having fun together, having my H be my H. Then I remind myself, he is not that man anymore and I just don't see us having a good time. More like a lot of awkwardness. So, I stay quiet, no invite coming from me. Makes me sad, but that is just the way it is right now. S and I will have a great time.

Last night was my dogs 4th bday, so I made her a hamburger pattie and put candles on it, and ya, S and I sang her happy birthday. The picture of the Pattie, candles with dog and S is adorable. So I TM it to H and he replied that he was sad he wasn't invited to the party. Oops.....and really?.....

Easy drop off with S tonight, still very little contact from H. It remains very quiet...