YBT, the baby steps that you are seeing might be nice, but many of us on here have seen a consistent pattern of nice behavior followed by backpedaling by our spouses.
That's why it's important to focus on just you. Question for you about counseling. Do you have insurance? Most insurances, at least in the US, I'm not sure where you are cover counseling and then you just have your copay. There is also family services or other programs that might help you out in your situation, even if your H makes a lot of money.
As for paying for a babysitter, I say set a boundary and tell him that you are going to do it.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
