Two weeks since the W dropped the bomb. 6 months separated against my wishes. Starting DBing two weeks ago. I'm doing my 180s and have been 100% consistent in front of her at all times. Here are the small changes I have noticed in my Ws behaviors that are small indicators of success:
1. She has not spoken about our R or moving forward with D at all. She is taking no action.
2. She is communicating with me on a daily basis: Most of the communication is about our kids but she has also had a couple instances where she has told me about nights out with friends and such.
3. She spent 30 minutes in the yard talking with me while we played with our daughter waiting for my son's school bus before she went out bowling yesterday. She goes every Wednesday and I spend the evening at my house with the kids. She has always left within 5 minutes of my arrival these last 6 months and hardly spoke with me at all.
4. Tonight I spent 2 hours at my house. Played with the kids for an hour and then helped with bath and getting them to bed. Here is the HUGE change. My wife did not leave the house while I was there. This is literally the first time in 6 months that she has not left our house when I came over.
I think I'm seeing progress. I'm working hard on focusing on myself and making the changes that I need to make in order to save my marriage. It takes one to tango has really resonated with me. I know I have a long road to travel but I have to admit that I am surprised by what I have seen from her so far.
I honestly think she is saying to herself "what the heck is doing?" But she's not stopping me
