"Anyway, things were tense for a bit but they eased back into normalcy. I thought it was him being ok, but it turns out it was him ignoring problems............SO I think things are fine, but he goes through periods of being icy and being ok."
This is what you wrote regarding your H. I don't pretend to have your interpersonal dynamics figured out. My point was that this is a complex issue and that every wiggle he takes your direction isn't the best measure of progress. For one, progress would be breaking out of this pattern. For another, tying your emotions to his every action will prevent you from detaching.
As for initiating affection, or talks about the two of you...one common theme of the 37 rules is "no pursuing". The 37 rules are the top sticky thread and a must read...usually multiple times a day until they're ingrained.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
