I was your husband at one point (echo), I pulled my weight at home however but I had the same type of disrespect to my W.
I don't know your H. But I was unhappy and my W was my abuse outlet. I didn't want to make myself happy, other then self medicating through activities. I wanted to be angry and upset. It's so easy to just be a jerk and let your W absorb the blame.
Thinking about it now. We just used life and work as an excuse to not be happy for whatever bizarre reason.
I know what it is like to not even have time to shower with "Daddy come! Daddy where are you? Daddy!!!"
