Thank you for your point of view. It's actually really helpful to me.

I have brought up counselling many times but he is adamant against it. I have never brought it up for me alone though. Except I don't know who would watch the kids as I certainly can't delve into this with them in earshot.

Me:35 H:35
M:12 yrs
T:14 yrs
D-7
S-5
D-2 (almost)
ILYBNILWY 9/14
in limbo ever since