Originally Posted By: Zelda09


Not saying that. I am sure he loved me and was genuinely nice to friends and family at times. I remember falling in love, the things he built me, his face when Id surprise him with something nice, what he looked like that first night in the hospital, the first time the dog crawled up in his bed, our wedding, honeymoon, the day we closed on the house.

I also remember what he looked like throwing things at me, punching things around me, telling me flatly to get my chit together if I cried and he didn't wNt to hear it. Withholding affection.

This hits home so much for me. Quite honestly I feel that these are the things my W would say about me. Almost exactly what I feel her words are. I know Ive wrote this before about the things I did and how i can relate to your H. I cant blame you for feeling this way Z, the coming free. You have been through so much with him, and as much as I want to sit here and say work on it, keep going, sometimes thats just not enough....especially if his behavior isn't changing.

I cant blame my W for leaving.. and it hurts me to say that. And looking from the outside in now, seeing your struggle with your H who still hasn't changed only makes me see just how awful this behavior is. Im so sorry Z.


ME: 28
W: 24
M: 2.5yrs
T: 5yrs
BD: 22 SEP 14
W Leaves: 5 OCT 14