Wonka, I agree the intent has to be similar. Maybe my wording wasnt clear.
If you read back on my interactions with Cali, I never told him not to have MC. I think they should at some point. But if he is having serious doubts about wanting to do it now, I dont think his feelings should be disregarded.
I think Cali is doing what he needs to do for him, while taking her wants and feelings into account, but his matter, too.
I do not think Cali is at all trying to DIY. He is weighing his options, following his gut and doing his homework. He is also having open dialogues with his wife about stuff that didnt work in their marriage. That also goes a long way in working through this.
By the way, Raine's h was very clear that he wanted her and the marriage. Which made a huge difference in how she acted and reacted. But as I wrote to Cali, those things arent going to come from his wife at this time.
It is great that we can all have different opinions regarding stuff based on our own experiences.
