Win. I feel your pain. I understand every bit of it. That's exactly where I am right now. You can read about my last couple days and I truly can't decide anymore whether I even WANT this marriage anymore. I know she isn't "her" and I know not to believe everything. But still I can't decide if there is actually a hope to get back to a good place together.
I think that's a decision only you can make. And it won't be easy.