Ripken - LRT with a WW and divorce filed #2

[Ripken8]

Pilot,

Thanks for that. It makes complete sense. I know I'm struggling with how long this has been going on - the lying, the cheating, the detachment, etc.

I realize now, it's even longer than what she had said and looking back, there's probably been several other instances she's lied to me. I agree, this is not something I can find an answer for and maybe never will.

I'm surprised there doesn't seem to be any movement. When I read Sandi's posts about the WW and the fog, I thought the loss of our marriage and our relationship would lift the fog maybe not instantly, but soon. The fog is still there and no sign of it ever going away.

You say in time, she will begin to reflect. While that makes sense, it doesn't feel like that will ever happen. The longer time goes on, the more hardened my heart becomes towards her and I battle daily trying not to feed into it.

Going away this weekend couldn't have come at a better time. Tomorrow is our 11/14 anniversary and I fly out in the morning. Hard to understand how that doesn't register with her or seem to care.

That's another thing. I am understanding how over time, I could stay so angry and hurt that I could be indifferent and not care anything about her. That I could be mean and want to take things out on her for maybe the rest of my life.

But, that's apparently not where she is. Pilot, you say she's selfish and not done with intent to hurt. I have no idea how any person gets to a point where they can do those thins without intent. I do understand how you can get to a point where you do it out of intent.