Trying to Follow DB & DR (3)

[Miman2]

No, I didn't.
At the time I was trying to get some advice on that.
These were the only two posts I got that chimed in on the subject.

I think you're best to listen to the more detached part of you. Extending invites to your W may push her further away right now. If she needs you and wants to talk to you, she knows where you are...

I haven't gone back through your sitch but from your recent posts I would ask have you read about pursuit and distance. It would appear on the surface of it that as you're pulling away from your wife, you're changing the dynamic. As a result of this your W would like you to restart your pursuit of her so you two can do the same old dannce. Be strong and hold back from comforting your W at this time would be my advice right now.

And then there was this guy who only wanted to talk about something completely different.

I thought you wanted to stop the poly lifestyle since it got you to this point. So you still want to continue it?

In the end I convinced myself that it would be better if I didn't reach out to her.
Because it would lead her to pursuing me. Turns out I was wrong.