Wow...I'm sorry you have to deal with that. What person goes to the home of the person they are having an affair with. What a POS! Sorry...I know you know that. Do other people in the family know about the affair and who it's with? If so, maybe you can have them intervene if he does show up at S13's Bar Mitzvah, politely ask him to leave without making a scene. That way you can focus on your son and not worry about him.

But you're right about not repeating it to her, waste of time.

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since