I'm kind of annoyed. I've been having fairly regular erotic dreams lately and then wake up with 0 nada zip passion or desire. In the dreams I'm fully aroused, eagerly participating and enjoying it all. Then when I wake up, and feel none of the preexisting desire, I feel really let down, sometimes angry, and very annoyed at the dreams. I want to feal that passion and desire in reality. Before, an erotic dream would leave me at least feeling sensual and sexy and be great foreplay. Now, I'm wondering what's up with the dreams and I'm starting to feel resentful. Just a rant. Morninglory
Have you tried lingering on the feelings and memory of the dream when you wake up? Instead of thinking that real life is a let down and can't compare with the dreamworld, pretend the dream is simply a "real" memory that you can draw from to start feeling sexy. Play it over and over in your mind throughout the day. Maybe even write it down. Email it to yourself if you don't trust others to respect your privacy.
Oh, try acting on your "dream memories" asap. Morning sex can be incredible, especially if you're a Morning Glory!
The fact that you're having these erotic dreams is likely an inner longing to become much more sensual.
Yeah, baby, yeah!! Enjoy it! Fight the inclination to let it frustrate you. Turn it into a springboard.
I had another dream a couple nights ago and remembered your advice. I decided to take the dreams as a comforting sign that my sexual sensual self still actively exisits. Appearently whatever barriers I have tapping into my sex drive dissappear during REM sleep. So even though, I woke up with no afterglow or desire, I did concentrate on enjoying the memory of my nocternal adventures. So instead of frustrating me, I end up content and happy, a pretty nice emotional state to be.
Glad to hear it, MG! A couple of weeks ago, I had a very erotic dream featuring my LD wife... just imagine my frustration upon waking (no interest on her part)... I envy you...
Hi morningglory. I wanted to reply because I have experienced the exact same thing. I'll have these very erotic dreams about my husband and I'm totally into it. But then I wake up...and nothing. It is very frustrating.
I think I will take the same advice and try to concentrate on remembering those dreams the next morning instead of just getting frustrated.
. And whats worse, when I try to share the dreams with H I get no reaction.