MY STORY IS UGLY BUT AT LEAST IM LEARNING #2

[parker7]

W says she plans to file this week. Here are the tidbits of the letter she wrote:
"After a lot of consideration and prayer over the matter, I'm proceeding with filing for D this week.
There have been a lot of things that have gone into my decision. I'm not discounting any of the things that we've discussed over the past few months, most importantly, our sons well being.
Although I love you, I cannot find the love again that a wife needs to be a strong support and companion to her husband. It would not be fair to you, to continue on this way. I'm sorry that I have not been able to. I've experienced terrible pain over the loss of what we had and also our present, and how I know you are feeling about this.
I know that there is a lot ahead of big stuff ahead of us. I've been actively searching for another place to live and have not found one yet, however I am prepared to move in with my parents.
I'm not interested in fighting you on anything throughout this process and that is still my intent. I don't want to take anything away from you that I don't have to."

We discussed the intent to file that night. it did get heated between us both as we argued some over details and the fact that I felt she was leaving because she is involved with OM. She packed up her car and was planning to leave that night. I apologized and cooled down the situation. Then something seemed to change within her. I discussed a new marriage with her for an hour. She cried, said she would sleep on it, we hugged very tight.

The next morning W said the night before that she was very saddened by the situation and how she was hurting me and how I was feeling but that she was not changing her mind on filing. We argued back and forth a again. I backed off arguing as she said I was pressuring her by asking her to reconsider, we parted ways. She went to her pastoral council appointment and came back saying the pastor continues to encourage her to go the direction she feels God is giving her peace about which is D as remaining M to me gives her much anxiousness.
She did say however she could not file now this week due to money issues and being at work. (The money issue is not true as she plans to do a $125 online filing).
She agreed to go with me to see my new Therapist that afternoon to discuss filing. My therapist spent an hour telling W that the marriage was very fixable and could be saved. She said your H is on the right path for permanent change and I am asking you to hold off on filing and lets work together together to save this M as it is worth it. She explained to my W her experiences dealing with divorced families and how it affected children and adults for life. She asked her multiple times to reconsider and delay. The W cried a lot but remained firm in her talk that she was done and could give no more to the M.
We had a quiet car ride and evening at home with our S. I said nothing, applied no pressure.
I sent an email today apologizing for applying pressure during our discussions about filing. I said I would continue to work on doing better by not pressuring her with any situation. I told her that she was welcome to stay living in our home under current arrangements.
Thoughts?