I know there are no guarantees but.....

[Dawn70]

I haven't posted in a few days. I have been having an extremely rough time. I haven't gotten any messages from anyone on here in a few days either so maybe because I am now divorced I should move on since I didn't bust my divorce.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My sitch moved very quickly and sometimes I feel almost guilty for being on here and talking about trying to move on alone when the title of this site is divorce busting and I was unsuccessful in busting mine. Ultimately though, X, I continue to come here and post and read because it helps me. In some ways it is better than therapy because while I enjoy my therapy sessions and like my IC VERY much, she has never been divorced. People on here...they KNOW what I am going through, know how it feels, know the reality of the situation from the inside.

I couldn't agree more with what Mozza said above about how you have many vets really giving you a lot of GREAT advice. Hang in there and continue to enjoy that for what it is - solid advice from good folks.

I, too, handled my actual D day well, but was a basket case in the days and weeks after and I, too, had that inner battle not to cry in public, at work, in the car on the way to and from work, anytime someone who didn't know we were D'ing asked how he was in Walmart....you name it, I cried there in the beginning. And, honestly, X, I still have those days. I had one day before yesterday because something sparked a memory and then the waterworks just flowed. Fortunately it was my day off, so I just layed on my couch petting my dog until it passed, but there are still rough days ahead.

X, I'm sorry for hi-jacking you here, but I really did just want to tell you to hang in there and keep posting and getting feedback. It WILL make a difference for you. I assure you!