Today I have been to IC. She said, that it is important for me to become stable as a person, to find the stuff inside, that is independent of others. I have some homework assignement to do during the next weeks. It sounds selfish, but she said, that right now it is just about the things that I can do for myself. Treat myself good, get to know myself better, find out what I want and don't want, what I expect from life. We have also spoken about some dynamics in the marriage, that have caused problems. And she said, that I should stop blameshifting. It would be fruitless. But she did not gave much room to the marriage-talk. Most of the time it has been about detachment.
It has been a great day.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
