but you could let her know that until the D is final or you are no longer living together you don't want your kids around OM as it is inappropriate.
I think I said something to that effect in the past. I don't think I am going to repeat it. I know it will fall on deaf ears, and I feel emasculated enough right now. It could just be my PTSD hypervigilance/paranoia, but I suspect he already drops by my house during the day. The thought makes me sick to my stomach.
I am even more worried that OM will show up at my S13's Bar-Mitzvah. It would give him a lot of satisfaction: I don't know too much about other sitchs, but I really think that OM, in this case, has a vendetta against me. It is not only about his limerance and infatuation with my W - if it is at all. I really suspect that he wants to stick it to me in some way. I know OM very well. Him and his wife were at our house all the time. He seduced my W over a a span of years - right under my trusting nose. I truly wonder whether all of his actions on some level are motivated by inflating his ego by deflating mine and profaning everything I value. Exercising control over my W may just be another manifestation of this.
Regarldess, I think this is one more thing about which I will have to say "Let go and let G-d".
