Great post Zeus, and one I need as well as many others it seems. I agree, you really have a way of making things clear in our muddled minds and hurting hearts! Thank you!!
Bob, sending you a massive hug, hoping it gives you a tiny boost to keep on going!
Hello Tulo,
Wasn't that an amazing post by Z? As for the massive hug, I'll take all the hugs I can get!
Thank you for checking in and making me feel a little better.
Take care of yourself.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Pyrite(sorry for the hijack Bob, next thing I will be telling you to start a new thread..... )
Hi Cadet,
That's okay - no worries!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
As the LBH, I'm praying that my WAW has noticed, and will continue to notice, my self-control in the coming weeks. I have done my best to not contact her for several weeks, except for the text where I asked about her folllow-up doctor appoinment. This is a complete 180 for me. I guess only the passage of time will convince her that I am working on my flaws.
BTW, I looked into paying the AT&T bill. I got nowhere since the account is not in my name.
Since the line has been shutdown, I'd think they'd be happy to collect the $ from anyone. I gave it my best.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I haven't been posting much the past few days. I'm more just reading and absorbing and gaining comfort so much from others and their sitches on this supportive forum. Just knowing you're not alone is majorly medicinal. I think you're holding up well to the NC BTW.
Anyway, just wanted to say hi and send you a brotherly ((Bob)).
I guess only the passage of time will convince her that I am working on my flaws.
Bob,
Its possible, but its also possible she may never see them. Its hard getting to the point where you accept either possibility happening, but your doing the right things as best you can. Its out of your control, but you should still be proud of your efforts. Keep moving forward, you got this.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Hi Bob. Just to echo Fogg. The N/C is a multi functional tool. It gives W something she wants and gives Bob some relief from the sitch. I know you keep upto date with my sitch and I find it very hard to see W most days and hear from her everyday. We never have a cross word and W is often very upset , this does nothing to help with my detachment
Re the phone , perfect , you did the right thing in my opinion You tried to pay but couldn't Leave it at that and if W ever mentions it again you can tell her what happened
Bob - Woah... You blew through a 10 page thread in 7 days!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
I haven't been posting much the past few days. I'm more just reading and absorbing and gaining comfort so much from others and their sitches on this supportive forum. Just knowing you're not alone is majorly medicinal. I think you're holding up well to the NC BTW.
Anyway, just wanted to say hi and send you a brotherly ((Bob)).
Diesel
Hey Diesel,
Thank you my friend, I understand!! Also, thanks for the encouragement and the brotherly hug.
Back at you -- (((Diesel)))
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
