Originally Posted By: HeavyD

Me: No problem, I just thought we we agreed to ask and get consent from one another before we made any plans, I was just surprised that's all.


Just curious what your motivation for the email is. You already stated to her you had no problem with the trip, but now are saying its too much flying for the kids.

Just make sure the email is because you're genuinely concerned with the children flying and not because you want to punish W for not clearing it with you first. Be honest with yourself.

I've realized I have a habit of using a boundary to control a situation I don't like. Its very easy to do this and not realize your trying to control W.

She hasn't taken them on a trip yet, so there's still room for discussion and the boundary really hasn't been crossed yet. There's nothing wrong with speaking with her about clearing those things first, if you have an issue with that. You have every right to say you don't want them going on the trip if you feel that way, just be sure that's the real reason.


Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be