It's funny. In the description for the pursuer and distancer it said, the distancer is "Most comfortable emotionally(although not truly happy) behaving like a baby." She was looking for something to eat in the fridge and she literally made a pouty face and stomped on the ground playfully trying to get my attention. I walked to the other room out of view.
Good, you did perfect.
You handled the text very well. You will need to tell your parents what's going on with her.
The anniversary......do not plan anything. No gift, dinner, nothing! She has dumped you. This is not a time to celebrate the marriage.
I look at going on vacation the same way. Why would you want to take a "fun-planned trip" with someone who has done this to you? Talk about miserable!! If she says anything else, I would just look at her incredious and say, "Considering our circumstances, I have no desire to go on a trip together". If she suggests going just as "friends", tell "no thanks" !
If you have non-refundable money on the trip, get a buddy to go with you, but don't hand it over to her. Did she have money invested in the trip?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
