Hi RD - maybe just tell yourself that you don't see another R in the near future. That would be healthy - things remain uncertain with your W, but you are drawing back at this point and leaving her to her own struggle. Not moving on, but moving further forward and detaching. Good job with the pleasant - well, call the landlord - comment.

I bet there would be many lovely ladies out there who would jump at the chance to help you cook a roast for your lovely family and join in the warmth, love and fun. So what you call baggage, others may see as something much more welcome and positive. There is some self-pity in your posts recently. It's maybe worth having a look and a think about that...

From where I'm sitting, your attitude and approach has taken a shift within your sitch. That needn't mean the end, unless you want it to be (and I suspect you aren't there yet) - but like me, plenty of patience and detachment may be called for at this point...

Have a good day RD xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus