Coming back from my emotional abuse

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Thanks Winhamm, just read and posted on your thread.

Yes, I am all about analyzing and overanalyzing. It's just what I am do that I am trying hard to free myself from. Makes it VERY DIFFICULT to not talk to her about it... to not say something that is a step back, looking for some type of reassurance, or at least "where are we at". Makes it VERY HARD to DB properly.

Which I now see is another reason that moving out seems like it might help ME just as much in letting me DETACH from this, not look over her shoulder, not snoop on her texts, etc. All of which I think would be extremely good for me from a depressurization standpoint.

On the other hand, reading through your thread, I think it was you who was talking about moving out, and either you or someone else mentioned that it was worth looking at to see if that was more of an emotional retreat (in a negative way) than actually good DBing.

I am on both sides of the fence -- it might be good to give us both breathing room.

Or, it might just be me not being able to take the pressure and be patient, get my stress under control, etc. Similar to pressing her for an answer one way or the other (not that I have, just as example) ie. let's just get this over with.

Life [censored] sometimes.