where do I begin?

[twinmom]

Yes, the change in attitude is very different for him. For the first few months after OW kicked him out he slept on my couch and cried/texted/pinned for her. He would randomly show me attention/affection but it was clear I was plan xyz......

Then I finally stood up for myself and kicked him out. He never hit rock bottom just used my desire for help (and my desire to keep my family together) to "worm" his way back to staying here and things got roommate weird..

We did that for a while then he wanted our marriage one day and the next he wouldn't. BIG time roller coaster.

FINALLY that ended when I was able to detach and really treat him like a roommate. I don't know if that's what did it or something else but it was like a lightning bolt. It was like the movie "a Christmas Carol" where he sees his mistakes and then sees the future if he doesn't shape up.

Yes, he saw an IC/marriage therapist before and that ended in disaster.

I don't know where to begin. What do I ask of him? How long does he need to prove himself? So many questions I don't even begin to know what to do.