Heavy d. The controlling aspect seems par for the course. You're doing the right thing. This was an agreed upon boundary and one you should continue to stand up for. They are your kids and you have every right to be involved Ina decision of them leaving the state, ahead of time.
Being able to tell her, I'm sorry you feel this is controlling (don't validate) but this is a boundary we agreed to. Imo why go through the efforts of making plans if you're not sure the other parent would sign off on it first.
This is an area you both need to feel comfortable trusting each other and based on her actions, that makes it tough.
Not controlling, simply sticking up for a clearly defined boundary.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
