Gg imagine you are in a clothes shop with an array of garments.
you try a few, some have no hanger appeal at all, others are beautiful looking items but uncomfortable to wear. Other pieces are lovely but the wrong, colour, size, shape or just aren't your style.
The price is wrong too costly. sometimes you pay a deposit to 'hold' the item, others you buy and return for an exchange.
its ok and you are ok. The garments aren't harmed by trying them on.
Eventually you find that special item that makes you feel special and you wear it often.
Think of your exploration of Rs like this Gg. It will all unfold in time, there is enough.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
If I was going to offer advice I'd say to relax and go with the fun aspect a little more but I dont know if thats something possible here, sounds like he may be in a darker place and is looking for someone to pull him into the light? If thats fair is that something you want to do and could have the right fit to work through with him.
Only you know that, he would be very lucky indeed if you do as I dont for one minute believe you'll do anything but be fantastic.
Doesnt mean you have to fix him though. If you close your eyes and envision your perfect weekend with a new r what does it look like? (Keep it PG now! ) does new guy factor in - Fabio is not available for the purposes of this question and Lady V has Liam tied up (possibly literally!)
Ms Fixit is very capable but dont be a slave to her much as Im domesticating mr fixit albeait with duck tape and a taser at times!
take it easy Gg.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I see V has more beautifully articulated what I as going to. The longer I go in this the more I'm inclined to believe we will share moments on this earth with many people and they shouldn't be taken for granted while they are happening. Maybe some of them are a 15 year relationships. Maybe others are shorter. Yet others may be longer. All contribute something to our time here. Enjoy it while you can, Gg. No expectations. The alternative is to not experience them and I think most would agree that isn't a great option either.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Indeed calling gg come in gg what's going on at the mo?
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Helllloooooo gg, what's going on on your bit of the blue marble?
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Seem it got x rated and I fell of the world for a bit!
About 5 or more days. I was sucked in and it's been super awesome. At times he sounds like edz and some of our other guys. It's very intense and very, very scarey.
There a few issues, nothing about compatibility but just life circumstances.
It proves the Intense r I had with my h, can be created else where. The speed however is wow.. Just wow. He's so very sure on heaps of stuff and gawd I'm so so wobbly.
He's sort of doing some reading and trying to understand why his wife did simlar things to my h hitting him at night in bed and verbal abuse. I'm not fixing so much as doing what we do here talking and offering resources.
There have been huge amounts of chats and we seem to be walking the same road with many mirrored experiences in the r. As here with some of the same chat we have all had it seems I have some sort of hero worship going on. He's very smitten, embarisingly so. The nosey Neighbour was at the same location we first went out together and met up! Officially like a date. Sunday dinners are still and thing with in the last few weeks ten or so coming.
I'm finding all the nice flowery r stuff hard to hear, often I feel less than deserving. I'm not sure how much of my new found independent life I want to give up. The human company and physical touch tho, boy I have missed it far more than I knew.
It's very easy to know why affairs and new r are so bloody addictive. Sigh but if you go by the hell yes theory it's what both of us are saying...
So who knows, atm it's some sort of thing. He wants to use terms like gf etc and I mentally freak out. If we stay at his there is a house mate to consider, something I don't have.
S17 has a job not an apprecticship but full time he says. The wooding has slowed with the job, but the boys owe one load to me.
) does new guy factor in - Fabio is not available for the purposes of this question and Lady V has Liam tied up (possibly literally!)