I am so sorry to read this. This must have been very painful and humiliating.
What do you want to do? Have you hired an attorney?
It is usually the case the party with the AP/OW wants out of the marriage as fast as possible. That's usually a red flag. Do you have an attorney? If no, I suggest getting one and reviewing your husband's proposal. Just because he says the house equity is XX doesn't mean it is what it should be. Do you even know how much equity is in the house?
Anyway, I am sorry but don't want you to get taken advantage of either.
