gan 6 - return to human be-ing

[Vanilla]

Gan

I am not saying " just do it" on its own. Of course not.

What I am saying is this, part of wanting to have sex and ML is anticipating. The sexiest organ in the human body is the brain. From there all the triggers for hormones flow. Sometimes just doing it gets the sexy going!

So I know that I need to do a number of things to get myself and my body ready to feel sexy,. Sometimes, yes, it is just do it. But it can take a little planning or self seduction.

1. Masturbate regularly. learn to please yourself. Buy some jelly and go for it. Not just in an R, during the dry spells too. This is for all your life. At nearly 61 I love sex as much now as I always did. I miss it too. H and I had some great naughty nooky.
2. Find your sexy triggers, underwear, no underwear, bathing, massage, cheeeese, makeup, meal. Find them all, note them down. kiss and snog lots too.
3. Like all behaviour changes, understand it and study it.
4. Think positively about sex, if you see it as a chore it will be, call it something good, a pet name it's easier to discuss
5. Learn to masturbate your man, give bj it can be a quickie like this
6. Watch him, look in his eyes, at his bum, left nostril, curly hair on nape. The thing that got to you when you first met.
7. Let him do the work, let him know what pleases you and lie back and think of England sometimes
8. Prepare your mind and body earlier in the day
9. smile, it doesn't have to be as in the movies, it can be sweaty, awkward and downright hilarious

So do you know what pleases you, (not asking for details here) but do you know your triggers?

What got you going in the beginning of your R. Do you mark it in your diary or journal? What opens up your thoughts to sex or ML or naughty nookie? Do you share this with your partner?

Like DB you have control over your own sexuality and are responsible for it higher or lower than your partner matters not. Let's hope during your life you cross roles sometimes.

V