Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[Pyrite]

Thanks Smothy, you too. I never imagined anything so hard. It seems like the past is crapped all over, the future is upside-down, and the present is just rubbing it in. That said, I do feel much better after a walk, half successful meditation on the VERY windy beach. And you know what started THIS downturn. Last night when I picked the girls up from day care i can see W's initialisation in sign in book.

She must've forgotten herself, Freudian slip perhaps,but she signed in using married name (initials). This is a first since BD, uses maiden name. Then d4 drops the biting game commentary. This morning I get to work to flat out denial email, blaming d4's confused memory AND I will call the agent and say go on the sale then.

I am pathetic .

[Pyrite]

Py- did you read my post today (I posted it recently on Bob's and Ten's thread) about where detachment comes from? About needs?

Read through Bob's thread, I explained it a bit better. Get back to me on what you think. Thanks.

I will while you're sleeping - i have to do some work before I get sacked. My output has been woeful for 3 months. That said - i probably will anyway.

[Zues126]

Good. Your posts % of including WAW's behavior has rebounded into the upper 80% range.

Just because you learn something doesn't mean you won't forget it.

Don't forget that this is all about you.

[Pyrite]

yeah i know - just posted on Bob's , in response to Cadet "So whats wrong with LBH getting over WAS". Feel free to answer if Cadet misses it.

[Pyrite]

I expect Mr Bond back soon with his club

[Winhamn]

I am pathetic .

Nah man, that was a really hard set of circumstances.

I would have been curled up, bawling my eyes out on the bathroom floor.

You handled it well. You did your best. It [censored], but you lived through it.

[Smothy]

This is the most painful episode in my life. My father, brother in law (of 30years) and sister all passed away with 18months of each other and the hurt and pain of this is so much deeper.

I am not being dramatic, I am finding this so much harder to cope with.

I am holding myself to a mirror and changing the things I see about my self that I do not like so I can move forward and not just focus on saving my M.

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks Smothy, you too. I never imagined anything so hard. It seems like the past is crapped all over, the future is upside-down, and the present is just rubbing it in.

This^^ is 100% perception. YES it is. (I know you are already arguing "but no, it's reality and it's unfair to ME and I am hurt"...)

But if another person were to look at your past, they might see a man with 2 healthy children and a job, selling a home and those 3 FACTS alone (your wife cannot change those) make you a fortunate man.

As for the present & certainly your future; it's what you create. You know, there are choices in this process.;

Exercise CHOICE or be stuck. But know that being stuck is another choice.


That said, I do feel much better after a walk, half successful meditation on the VERY windy beach. And you know what started THIS downturn. Last night when I picked the girls up from day care i can see W's initialisation in sign in book.


If you cannot let go of an accidental use of her married name, allowing it to start "THIS DOWNTURN"

you will be suffering longer than you need to. Let it go. The more upset and depressed you get, the less available you are for your children AND for real GAL

Move on..."NEXT!"

She must've forgotten herself, Freudian slip perhaps,but she signed in using married name (initials). This is a first since BD, uses maiden name.



Then d4 drops the biting game commentary.

This^^ is in the past, & you already passed it on to your wife and there's nothing more to do or say about it. Let it go.

This morning I get to work to flat out denial email, blaming d4's confused memory AND I will call the agent and say go on the sale then.

I am pathetic .

So, what are YOU going to DO/PLAN THIS WEEK to further your healing process?

[25yearsmlc]

I expect Mr Bond back soon with his club

Maybe it's just me, but I don't think^^ these comments are funny. To me they are not helpful.

Sometimes they sound almost like you are whining about a veteran here, who donates A LOT of his time for free.

But maybe I'm just reading it incorrectly. How about putting the focus on what YOU can do for your life to be better.

[25yearsmlc]

Good. Your posts % of including WAW's behavior has rebounded into the upper 80% range.

Just because you learn something doesn't mean you won't forget it.

Don't forget that this is all about you.

this^^^