Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks Smothy, you too. I never imagined anything so hard. It seems like the past is crapped all over, the future is upside-down, and the present is just rubbing it in.

This^^ is 100% perception. YES it is. (I know you are already arguing "but no, it's reality and it's unfair to ME and I am hurt"...)

But if another person were to look at your past, they might see a man with 2 healthy children and a job, selling a home and those 3 FACTS alone (your wife cannot change those) make you a fortunate man.

As for the present & certainly your future; it's what you create. You know, there are choices in this process.;

Exercise CHOICE or be stuck. But know that being stuck is another choice.


That said, I do feel much better after a walk, half successful meditation on the VERY windy beach. And you know what started THIS downturn. Last night when I picked the girls up from day care i can see W's initialisation in sign in book.


If you cannot let go of an accidental use of her married name, allowing it to start "THIS DOWNTURN"

you will be suffering longer than you need to. Let it go. The more upset and depressed you get, the less available you are for your children AND for real GAL

Move on..."NEXT!"

She must've forgotten herself, Freudian slip perhaps,but she signed in using married name (initials). This is a first since BD, uses maiden name.



Then d4 drops the biting game commentary.

This^^ is in the past, & you already passed it on to your wife and there's nothing more to do or say about it. Let it go.

This morning I get to work to flat out denial email, blaming d4's confused memory AND I will call the agent and say go on the sale then.

I am pathetic .

So, what are YOU going to DO/PLAN THIS WEEK to further your healing process?